But mostly, I, too, wanted to flex on my ex. According to Leckie, throwing a thirst-trap on the 'Gram, posting pictures of yourself with a new person, and going on amazing vacations are all pretty common ways to flex on, or emotionally provoke, your ex. Sound familiar? Though IRL flexing may include going for that new promotion at work, finally moving to the neighborhood you've been dreaming about, or buying yourself a new pair of shoes, Leckie shares that flexing mostly happens over social media.
Though the end of a relationship may make you want to compete or "flex" on your ex, Laurie Davis Edwards, love coach and founder of The Worthy One , shares that playing the post-breakup comparison game is ultimately a confidence killer. No feelings are 'wrong' or 'worse.
If you've ever been bombarded by photos of your ex seemingly living their best life or you've felt pressure to share some killingit moments of your own, Leckie shares that post-breakup FOMO is totally real. Though a sultry selfie photoshoot or traveling after a split can be totally nourishing, both experts share that it's important to distinguish what you're doing for you and what you're doing to provoke or prove something to your ex.
There is no finish line, and it is not a contest, there is nothing to 'win. Being your best self after a breakup can mean shifting your focus to your own wellbeing and giving yourself time to heal. Davis Edwards suggests crying, journaling, giving yourself some serious TLC, and fueling yourself with your own energy. Whether you sign up for a Thai boxing class to process your anger in a healthy way or get a long massage to release your built-up stress, flexing on your ex can mean doing whatever your body needs to heal.
Though wine and a sad movie may feel good for a night or two, both Davis Edwards and Leckie suggest getting out of the house. Hanging out with supportive friends and family, taking a yoga or pottery class, building your own inner confidence and self-esteem, and exploring new places by yourself are all great ways to heal your heartache.
Hang out with positive people," Leckie says. Make room for new energy. If your ex didn't treat you with the respect that you deserve, or they seemed to move on two seconds after the breakup read: Tropical. But what does "flex" mean in the slang sense of the word? In the possible case that you have no idea what I'm talking about, let me explain. According to the Urban Dictionary, the verb "to flex" essentially has one of two meanings. It can mean to show off, to gloat, or to boast , which is the most popular definition of the word; however, it can also mean to put on a fake front, to fake it, or force it.
The second definition is usually used in conjunction with the first — as in, someone who's gloating about something that they've really got no right to gloat about, lying about an accomplishment, or exaggerating the truth. This usage of "flex" is most popularly used in rap and hip hop, but can be heard elsewhere as well.
Here are some examples of lines rappers and other artists have used that will illustrate proper usages of the word:. While flexing and the idea behind it have been popular for a long time, it was recently re-popularized by Rae Sremmurd, a hip hop duo comprised of two young brothers who were both under 21 around the time their song was released.
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